Now, I want to state for the record that I absolutely LOVE my family and my in-laws. No questions about that. And I would climb mountains to see them...but...
When does all the traveling stop? I realize tradition states that newly-wed-ish couples must do 99% of the traveling to see various and sundry family members, and said couple is absolutely expected to travel if they have previously chosen to move to a town away from their hometown. I realize this. But when does it change? What I mean is this: I know that somewhere along the line, my own mother stopped dragging us to my grandmother's home for our "main" Christmas celebration. I know this happened, because most of the traditions and memories I have of Christmas happened at my own home.
So, does the expectation of travel from your family stop when you have kids? Or does it not happen until the kids are old enough to start realizing the concept of tradition? And, why do I bother decorating oh-so-fervently for the holiday if no one comes here to see it? Not to mention attempting to start traditions with just me and my husband...we are too busy trying to fit everyone ELSE into our holiday plans that we don't really have any kind of tradition other than those springing from our individual childhood memories.
Let me close by saying that I love to see all of our family. I love going to Terri's house to see just how much we are alike in our decorating nuances (and secretly stealing ideas for next year....!). Holding hands and praying over our Kern Christmas, Les singing numerous carols, watching some sort of Christmas movie late into the night all curled up on the couches together. Likewise, I love going to my own home to participate in the tradition of the advent calendar, the white powdered doughnuts on Christmas morning, watching "It's a Wonderful Life" on Christmas Eve, etc. My Christmas would not be complete without these things, but I wonder when it will be OUR time to create tradition?
Just some musings as I listen to my wonderful husband staple our Christmas lights up on the house in the 20 mph winds....what a tradition! ;)
Please come see them.