In our town, today was the first day back to school for students. While E and I were out running errands this morning, we happened to drive by the high school where I used to teach. The parking lot was full, "Welcome Back!" signage was out in abundance, and I even noticed a few changes to the building that must have taken place over the summer.
To say I missed it all would be an understatement.
For some reason, I found myself in tears as I drove away. Nothing bad had happened. In fact, today has been an exceptionally wonderful day spent with my little lady (well, except for the Great Green Bean Stand-Off at lunch...!).
(Aren't I such a mean Mommy for wanting her to try
one measly little green bean..?!?!) ;)
As we drove by my former workplace, I just had an overwhelming feeling of nostalgia and longing for that season of my life that seemingly came and went so quickly. I enjoyed my job teaching Senior English very much, and, at the risk of sounding like a bad stay-home Mom, there are times that I really do long for the working days of my past.
Once I made it home, put the kiddo down for her nap, and had time to process my strange outburst, I was able to zero in on why I was having such a surge of emotion today. (You know, other than being 8 months pregnant...can't control those crazy 'mones, am I right, ladies?!) ;)
The answer came in the form of a funny sent to me by my Mom. In one of her care packages, my Mom had included this comic among others:
(Might need to enlarge the screen zoom in order to read it...scanned kinda small.)
It's been laying on my counter for a few days, and, while it made me laugh upon first read, I think its message has been weighing on me a lot lately.
You see, choosing to stay home with little ones instead of work is sometimes a lonely job. There are days (like today, for instance) where you don't see another grown-up other than your husband. That's okay sometimes, too, but still...kinda lonely. In the workplace, you are forced to interact with others constantly, even if you don't always like the people you might work with. You also receive a paycheck while working, and, for me, this was always kind of like a "Great job! You're doing just what we've asked of you, and we'd like to let you know we appreciate the effort!" As a stay-home Mom, rarely will your child sing your praises as you parent him/her, leaving much of that task to your husband. Truly, one or two kind words from Russell regarding my choices and efforts to parent our daughter send me straight to the moon. (Side note: this man is an amazing encourager, and I am quite aware of how lucky I am. He teaches me so much about how to be verbally uplifting, and I would NOT make it through the challenges of raising our daughter without his encouragement. Better than any paycheck, for sure.)
Anyway, my point is that I think I was missing my old life, old job, old day to day routine so much this morning, because I know what is coming my way in just a handful of weeks: the lonely, exhausting days of having a newborn in the house once more. The more pregnant I get, the less I get out and about due to sheer exhaustion, and this slowing down process is all there to get me ready for what is to come. Believe me, I am SO very grateful for the blessings of my two baby girls. And yet, I am learning day by day, choice by choice, tear by tear, success by success just what people meant when they said that staying home to raise your kids is a sacrifice.
The sacrifice is YOU. Your life; your independence; feeling like you have something to do, to be, to think about other than your children. Hearing from your boss or coworkers or, in my case, students that you are doing a good job, or at least being told so in the form of a paycheck. Riding in the car alone, or, really, ANY alone time, for that matter. Seeing grown-ups on a daily basis...something I never thought I'd miss so much!
Do I have peace about my decision to quit working? Yes. One million percent.
But, if I'm being honest, there are times that I long for what was.
If I'm alone in that longing, so be it.
Thus, I had myself a good cry this morning, wiped my tears, and snuggled up with my little lady while she read me her favorite book of letters. The happiness in her innocent little face as she named them off one by one, and then the snuggle that followed lifted my spirits in immeasurable ways. When we finished reading and snuggling, I checked my phone, and waiting for me was a sweet text from my husband listing some of the ways he was proud of me today. The tears came back a bit...but this time, they were tears of peace, of happiness, and of coming full circle in my little self-examination today.
I know I'm right where I should be. Where I desire to be.
But I think it's okay and healthy to look back with fond memories on what has been.
Makes me appreciate the present that much more.
:)